097: How to Eliminate Self-Hate + Start Accepting Yourself

This week's solo episode with Ranela is all about how to eliminate self-hate and start accepting yourself. Including:Ranela's backstory of identity crisis, self-hate, and rebuilding an authentic lifeHow stories turn into identities The detriment of comparing ourselves to other peopleGiving ourselves the permission to GRIEVE the loss of identities, people, and beliefs that we thought would stick around foreverForgiving ourselves for not being where we thought we “should” be by now.Giving ourselves permission to DREAMCreate a life we loveThe importance of living by our valuesand more!Ranela Kaligithi is a marriage and family therapist, clinical counselor, and digital creator in Southern California. While completing her graduate work in Psychology at California Baptist University and developing a trauma treatment program. Ranela pursues practical ways for individuals to rise above their circumstances, transform their relationship with themselves, and be effective managers of their mental health.Timestamps:18:30 - I started realizing how much I didn’t love myself23:38 - “I hate myself for not being where I thought I’d be by the time I was 27”28:41 - What is self-love? 31:25 - Questions to ask yourself to stop hating yourself 37:05 - Why you can’t compare yourself to anyone 43:00 - This is where you begin on your self love journey 45:25 - Why putting yourself first isn’t selfishSubscribe to the Speaking Our Minds Newsletter to get updates on the latest episodes, upcoming topics, and insider inspo!: https://mailchi.mp/361c1d35da39/pod-newsletter-sign-upConnect with Ranela: Connect with me on IG & join my Broadcast channel: @lifewithranelaFacebook: www.facebook.com/ranela.kaligithiWebsite: www.lifewithranela.comDownload Ranela's Self-love Mini Workbook: https://lifewithranela.myflodesk.com/self-love1:1 Coaching with Ranela + more: https://www.lifewithranela.com/socialsJoin her Membership Waitlist: https://lifewithranela.myflodesk.com/um24no8tpmConnect with us on social media for more:Podcast Instagram: @SpeakingOurMindsPodTik Tok: @SpeakingOurMindsPodSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/the-faith-mental-wellness-podcast-with-brittney-moses. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.