115. Dating From the Inside Out: Your Inner Critic and How to Stop Self Sabotage with Britt Frank

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re welcoming someone whose work has helped thousands of people move from stuck to aligned, it's the brilliant Britt Frank. A licensed neuropsychotherapist, trauma specialist, speaker, and bestselling author of The Science of Stuck and her brand-new book Align Your Mind, her insights have been featured in NPR, Forbes, The New York Times, and Esquire—and today, she’s here with us, Flirties! In this episode, we’re getting into the nitty gritty of the mind—what it means to work with our inner world, the origin of our inner critic, and how our nervous systems play a huge role in dating, self-worth, and how we connect with others.  We’ll talk about Internal Family Systems therapy, the power of parts work, and how the anxious part, avoidant part, or people-pleaser within us might be running the show more than we think, and what we can do about it. Britt helps us understand why we sometimes get stuck in patterns we know aren’t good for us, she’s got a reframe on self-sabotage and after this, you might start calling it traumatized intuition, we’ll talk about why change is hard (but totally possible), and how our past experiences and traumas might be shaping the way we date today. Whether you’re navigating indecision, struggling with attachment, or wondering why the same relationship themes keep popping up—this episode is packed with science, soul, and practical strategies to help you get unstuck and move forward with confidence. Let’s do this, Flirties, and meet Britt Frank. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Britt Frank, LSCSW, SEP is a licensed neuropsychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Science of Stuck and Align Your Mind. She received her BA from Duke University and her master’s from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning instructor. Britt is a contributing writer for Psychology Today and her work has been featured in the New York Times, Forbes, NPR, and New York Magazine.  You can connect with Britt on Instagram, LinkedIn, and on her website, www.brittfrank.com. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.