Relationship Myths and How They Affect Us

Episode6: Relationship Myths and How They Affect Us Explicit Today we explore the relationship myths that keep us in unhealthy relationship patterns. We take a look at how it impacts the music we listen to about love and phrases we use regularly to convey love. We learn how to unpack some of these ideas to increase awareness about the effects of our programming on our relationships.[00:00] Intro[05:11] Dear Mr. McCartneyDr. Legs Letter to Mr. McCartney[10:22] My problematic Relationship Beliefs from My ManifestoMarriage is expected to last foreverMarriage is only between one man and one womanEmotional connections outside the marriage with the opposite sex is frowned uponMarriage should meet all our needsBeing married means you belong to your spouseSex outside of marriage is wrongJealousy and Self-sacrifice equals loveLoving more than one person intimately is not possibleSexual Freedom is shameful and Slut shaming is OKSex and Love are not mutually exclusiveSetting Boundaries in your life is mean especially in marriage[11:58] Problematic Phrases and QuotesYou complete meYou’re my everythingI’m nothing without youYou are the only one for meMy other halfAll you need is loveYou own my heart“I don’t want anyone else to have your heart, kiss your lips, or be in your arms because that is my place.”Why are they problematic?How are they perceived?Do we even notice that they are harmful?  What is the undercurrent to these phrases?[17:43] Toxic/Problematic Mono beliefs and rituals:Becoming One (it should not be a melded one or becoming one, but instead a united two)  Eg. Unity candle (unity candle with two individual candles being blown out and lighting the unity candle), mixed sand, white wine/red wine, Concept of ownership in relationshipsJealousy means loveOne Soul MateNo Sex Before Marriage (It’s wrong)Sex is the glue that holds a relationship togetherYou should not have close guy friends (that’s dangerous)One person should meet all your needs[31:28] Problematic Songs:How Do I Live Without You?  -LeAnn RimesI Have Nothing  - Whitney HoustonSomeone You Loved   - Lewis CapaldiYou Are The Reason  - Calum ScottWhen a Man Loves a Woman  - Michael BoltonSomeday My Prince Will Come  - Snow White[45:30] Mononormative Myths from Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships Romantic Love Is the Only Foundation for an Enduring RelationshipYou Need to Find a Soul MateThey Lived Happily Ever AfterDesiring Someone Else Is a Form of InfidelityMonogamy Is Natural, Evolutionarily Determined, Optimal, or Divinely OrdainedThere is a Right Way to Be Sexual[01:08:12] Myths About Sluts from The Ethical SlutLong-term Monogamous Relationships are the only real...